Porn Addict: How I Broke Free (part 3)


Fight back!

For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.” — Ephesians 6:12 (NLV)

Satan is our enemy. More than anything, he and his dark hoards of fallen Angels want to invade, oppress and subdue our intellect. If he can get us to believe him, then he’ll guide us away from God — every time. That’s one reason we have to read God’s word and hold tight to its wisdom.

Satan wants to control your thoughts, how you think and what you think about. Why? Because your enemy knows that if he can influence the way you think, that he will have greater control over you! If he can control you, you better believe he will pull you away from God (and use you to pull others away too). Let me explain in greater detail: Our thoughts influence our actions, our actions form habits, our habits shape our lifestyle, and our lifestyle determines our destiny!

THOUGHTS —> ACTIONS —> HABITS —> LIFESTYLE —> DESTINY

That’s why choosing what we expose ourselves to and what we think about is sooooo important! You are, thus far, an accumulation of what you have thought about and the thoughts you have acted upon. And in the future, you will be what you are presently thinking about and acting upon now.

So how do we fight back?

Scripture tells us, “ . . . the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.” Hebrews 4:12 (NLT)

The word of God is our primary weapon. The Word has been the tool that’s unlocked me from every addiction and propelled me through every mental barrier. The Scripture is a weapon to be wielded.  It dispels doubt and fosters faith. It replaces fear with fierceness. The word of God is a synoptical-scalpel — metamorphosing its reader’s reasoning. II Timothy 3:16 (MSG) tells us, “Every part of Scripture is God-breathed and useful one way or another — showing us truth, exposing our rebellion, correcting our mistakes, training us to live God’s way.”

The first step to fighting back is learning, memorizing and meditating on God’s word.

You will become what you think about. What you mentally consume has life altering effects for the good or the bad. This post is all about what we should be thinking about. (I’ll talk a little bit more about what things we shouldn’t consume in a future post.) Where shall we begin? Let’s start with getting God’s perspective concerning sex, lust and sexual purity.

As you continue reading, remember, this is an amazing opportunity to train your mind to think how God thinks. So grab a caffeinated beverage, if need be, and focus with all your mind, heart, soul and strength.  If you learn to think like God thinks, then you better believe that those godly thoughts will influence your actions, your actions will form amazing habits, your habits will then shape your lifestyle, and your lifestyle will bring about a destiny and life that Jesus said would be “better . . . than [you] ever dreamed of” (John 10:10). So prepare yourself, as we venture into the mind of God.

God’s Thoughts on Sex, Lust & Purity 

“How can a young person live a clean life? By carefully reading the map of your Word” (Psalms 119:9).

“I made a solemn pact with myself never to undress a girl with my eyes(Job 31:1).

“Reverently honor an older woman as you would your mother, and the younger women as sisters” (I Timothy 5:2).

“And you won’t spend the rest of your life chasing after evil desires, but you will be anxious to do the will of God. You have had enough in the past of the evil things that godless people enjoy — their immorality and lust, their feasting and drunken- ness and wild parties, and their terrible worship of idols. Of course, your former friends are very surprised when you no longer join them in the wicked things they do, and they say evil things about you. But just remember that they will have to face God, who will judge everyone, both the living and the dead” (I Peter 4:2-5).

“Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything you do” (Proverbs 4:23 NLV).

“Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever — the kind of sex that can never ‘become one’” (I Corinthians 6:17).

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline(II Timothy 1:7).

Be careful! Watch out for attacks from the Devil, your great enemy. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for some victim to devour” (I Peter 5:8).

“You know well enough from your own experience that there are some acts of so-called freedom that destroy freedom. Offer yourselves to sin, for instance, and it’s your last free act. But offer yourselves to the ways of God and the freedom never quits. All your lives you’ve let sin tell you what to do. But thank God you’ve started listening to a new master, one whose commands set you free to live openly in his freedom! I’m using this freedom language because it’s easy to picture. You can readily recall, can’t you, how at one time the more you did just what you felt like doing — not caring about others, not caring about God — the worse your life became and the less freedom you had? And how much different is it now as you live in God’s freedom, your lives healed and expansive in holiness? As long as you did what you felt like doing, ignoring God, you didn’t have to bother with right thinking or right living, or right anything for that matter. But do you call that a free life? What did you get out of it? Nothing you’re proud of now. Where did it get you? A dead end. But now that you’ve found you don’t have to listen to sin tell you what to do, and have discovered the delight of listening to God telling you, what a surprise! A whole, healed, put-together life right now, with more and more of life on the way! Work hard for sin your whole life and your pension is death. But God’s gift is real life, eternal life, delivered by Jesus, our Master” (Romans 6:16-23).

“Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex” (Hebrews 13:4).

“You know the next commandment pretty well, too: ‘Don’t go to bed with another’s spouse.’ But don’t think you’ve preserved your virtue simply by staying out of bed. Your heart can be corrupted by lust even quicker than your body. Those leering looks you think nobody notices — they also corrupt(Matthew 5:28).

“Until that time, remember that your bodies are created with the same dignity as the Master’s body. You wouldn’t take the Master’s body off to a whorehouse, would you? I should hope not. There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever — the kind of sex that can never “become one.” There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another. Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body” (I Corinthians 6:15-20).

If you are not meeting the standard of sexual purity found in these scriptures, don’t think all is lost! If your thoughts have produced actions, habits or a lifestyle that is contrary to God’s standards, yes, it might take some effort to overcome them, but don’t be discouraged. Why? First, because God loves you and just think “if God didn’t hesitate to put everything on the line for us, embracing our condition and exposing himself to the worst by sending his own Son, is there anything else he wouldn’t gladly and freely do for us?(Romans 8:31-32)

Second, you can alter your actions, habits and lifestyle by changing what you think about! The Bible is The Book of God’s thoughts. It explains how God designed humans to live, how He made humans to relate to each other and to relate to Him! If you consistently think on God’s thoughts and ask the Holy Spirit to illuminate your mind, then you will have the “mind of Christ” (I Corinthians 2:16). You will think like God! If you have God’s mind, then you better believe that your actions, habits, lifestyle and destiny will be transformed! Your old half-dead ways will be replaced with overflowing spiritual life!

I’ll be posting some more scriptures relating to this topic tomorrow . . . 

 

Grow: (1 minute exercise)

Memorize 1 verse listed above. If you read over the verse and meditate on it for 1 minute a day for the next week, you’ll have it memorized.

Additionally: I have created a resource that has helped so many of my adult leaders and my students to break free from porn and sexual addictions. It’s called, Walking like Zombies. Every youth leader needs this resource. You can work through it with a group or by yourself.

To discover more about Walking like Zombies, please click here.

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