Porn Addict: How I Broke free (part 2)

Sex seems to be everywhere in culture. You can’t even go to the mall without seeing all of Victoria’s secrets!  Access to the most hardcore porn, is just a click away on the Internet. “Hook’n up,” “friends with benefits,” and all forms of casual sex are becoming more and more common. Nearly, all (99.9%) of my male students and youth leaders (and many of my female students and youth leaders) have had to overcome or are overcoming some form of the areas mentioned.

Before  I go on, I want to make this clear. For decades, —especially, in American Christian circles — sexual sin has been held as the worst-of-worst of sins. Because of this, there has been so much shame associated with sexual sin. Shame drives human heart into hiding — from people — and, worst of all, God. (That’s exactly what Adam and Eve did after they first fell —they hid.) Jesus’ death covers all sin. It not only forgives you of your past mistakes, but helps irradiate the ones we are all currently working through. This is the Gospel; that we can be free from sin.  Romans declares,

But now that you’ve found you don’t have to listen to sin tell you what to do, and have discovered the delight of listening to God telling you, what a surprise! A whole, healed, put-together life right now, with more and more of life on the way! Work hard for sin your whole life and your pension is death. But God’s gift is real life, eternal life, delivered by Jesus, our Master” Romans 6:22-23 (MSG).

Before we move into the practical implementation of taking on lustful thoughts, temptations, and actions, we have to know more about our God who is calling us out of this kind of destructive lifestyle into a “real and eternal life, more and better life than [we] ever dreamed of” (John 10:10 (MSG)). The first thing we must tattoo on our hearts is that God is in love with us! He loves us more than we could ever imagine. This is a our foundation for everything!

John 3:16 (MSG), gives us a hint of how much our heavenly Father loves us. “This is how much God loved [us]: He gave his Son, his one and only Son. And this is why: so that no one need be destroyed; by believing in him, anyone can have a whole and lasting life.” As I mentioned earlier, God allowed His only Son to die in our place. He paid the price for our sin — humanity’s tragic genetic death sentence. Now I really love a lot of people, but, honestly, I don’t love anyone enough to allow my son, Lincoln, to be executed for someone else’s mistakes. But this is what God did for me and the whole human race. As Romans 5:7-8 (MSG) says,

“We can understand someone dying for a person worth dying for, and we can understand how someone good and noble could inspire us to selfless sacrifice. But God put his love on the line for us by offering his Son in sacrificial death while we were of no use whatever to him.” 

Lincoln is my only son; I couldn’t imagine giving him up for anything or anyone. I would offer up my life before I would let anything happen to him. I don’t know how God did it. His love for us is more than any of us can comprehend. He truly sacrificed everything for us. There is no doubt that our Heavenly Dad loves us beyond earthly understanding.

God loves us so much that He can’t stop thinking about us. As I quoted before, Psalm 139:17-18 (MSG) says, “How precious are your thoughts about me, O God! They are innumerable! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand!” 

Mathematicians at the University of Hawaii estimated that there are seven quintillion five quadrillion (7,500,000,000,000,000,000) grains of sand on the world’s beaches. That is a lot of thoughts, especially consid- ering that if people live to be 80 years old, they only live for approximately two billion, five hundred and twenty-four million, six hundred and eight thousand (2,524,608,000) seconds. Here’s the breakdown:

  • 80 years = 29,220 days (not including leap years)
  • 29,220 days = 701,280 hours
  • 701,280 hours = 42,076,800 minutes
  • 42,076,800 minutes = 2,524,608,000 seconds 

Now, that might not seem very exciting, but consider that if all of God’s thoughts toward you occurred during your entire lifetime, He would have approximately:

  • 93,750,000,000,000,000 thoughts about you every year
  • 256,673,511,293,630 thoughts about you every day
  • 10,694,729,637,235 thoughts about you every hour
  • 178,245,493,954 thoughts about you every minute
  • 2,970,756,233 thought about you every second 

That’s almost 3 billion precious thoughts about you every second! And what really blows my mind is that Psalm 139:17-18 (NLT) says His thoughts for us actually “outnumber the [7,500,000,000,000,000,000] grains of sand!” His thoughts for us are “innumerable” (Psalm 139:17 NLT). God can’t stop thinking about us! He loves his children and is actively helping to heal, restore and give us “real and eternal life,” here on this earth and in the life to come (John 10:10). God is smitten with love for you!

This is crucial to know, because the main goal of the devil is to separate our hearts from God, just like he did with Adam and Eve. If we feel like God is angry with us when we make mistakes or fall into sin, our natural response is to pull away from Him. If I think someone is mad at me, I don’t feel closer to them (in my heart), I feel farther away. Personally, it makes me want to run away from them. If you have received Christ as your Savior and made Him Lord of your life, like Romans 10:9 describes, then your debt has been forgiven and you are adopted into God’s family. You are His child! John 1:12 (MSG) expounds on this, “Yet all who receive him, to those who believe in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.” 

If you, one of your students or a youth leaders are struggling with lust or any kind of sexual sin, the first step is to let God love you. The best way to do this is to draw near to Him. James 4:8 (NKJV) says, “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you . . .”

Grow: (1 minute exercise)

Read James 4:8-10 (MSG), below, once a day for the next five days.

“So let God work his will in you. Yell a loud no to the Devil and watch him scamper. Say a quiet yes to God and he’ll be there in no time. Quit dabbling in sin. Purify your inner life. Quit playing the field. Hit bottom, and cry your eyes out. The fun and games are over. Get serious, really serious. Get down on your knees before the Master; it’s the only way you’ll get on your feet.” James 4:8-10 (MSG)

Challenge:

Memorize James 4:8-10 (MSG) this week. Suggestion: Read 5-10 times everyday this week and you’ll have it memorized.

 

Additionally: I have created a resource that has helped so many of my adult leaders and my students to break free from porn and sexual addictions. It’s called, Walking like Zombies. Every youth leader needs this resource. You can work through it with a group or by yourself.

To discover more about Walking like Zombies, please click here.

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